Looking back at some of the most popular posts at RCB, I found a series that explored the power of asking for what you want. Asking is hard for me. It seems weak and needy and I am reluctant to reveal either of those qualities because I think that people will like me less. When I am asked for help however, I don’t judge but try to help as best I can. There is something perverse stopping me from asking for help. I have to force myself to be open about my needs and my limits. When I don’t ask for help then I am on my journey alone and limited to my own resources. Looking back, I have wasted time and missed opportunities because I didn’t ask. In retirement I can’t afford to waste anything.
The first post explores the idea of asking for what you want. Then watching the Fountainhead, I saw another dimension about asking. Finally the specifics of asking for help.
I hope that you don’t have my limitation and are open and transparent about asking for what you want and need. The rewards are immense. If you have examples to share that can encourage anybody who is reluctant, please share them.
I grew up not really liking to ask for anything – leaves you with a lot of things left undone and a lot of strife. After a while I put myself in a position where I wouldn’t have to ask as often, and that worked for a while… but there was still friction with family and significant other.
Thing is, since getting back from Canada, I can’t comprehend some of the things I refused, point blank, to ask about before. So much easier now! Have to love perception changes.
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You are learning this a lot earlier than me. Congratulations.
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Better role models. =)
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