by Ralph
on November 1, 2013
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by Ralph
on October 25, 2013
It happened
– the disaster you hadn’t prepared for. You lost a document. You can’t work the ATM machine. You missed your flight. The bus didn’t come. Relax. Take a deep breath and stay cool. It’s not the end of the world. It is just another adventure. You can deal with almost anything that comes along. Real disasters rarely happen and whatever you experience will make a great story – in time.
I’m a worrier by nature. I always review the things that can possibly go wrong when I start something. All my life I have tried to anticipate and head off potential disasters. It has been an exercise in futility because what I anticipate almost never actually happens. If something bad happens, it is never anything I imagined. It is always something else.
It is disabling
to anticipate disasters. To spend your time focused on the endless possibilities for something bad to happen makes you fearful and unable to enjoy the moment. I have struggled with worry for years and over time have gained a bit of control. The longer I manage to cope with the uncertainties of life, the more confidence I feel in my ability to handle problems. Part of this is observing that the problems I can see in my head almost never happen in reality and the rest is that I actually have learned to trust my ability to deal with problems on the fly.
After planning your trip, it is best not to worry. In the first place, worry can paralyze you and keep you from enjoying the delights of the place you are visiting. In the second place, it’s never the things you worry about that happen. In the third place, whatever happens is just a part of your adventure, a matrix for storing your experience and sometimes a path to something wonderful you never anticipated. [continue reading…]
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